FINDING THE OLIVE IN THE HAY STACK

So what’s happening? I would love to launch into a brand new subject in Mind Check, but I have unfinished business to attend to, and I feel I owe you, the visitor-reader-viewer, an explanation of what’s been happening since my last posting.

My big news is that since that posting I met with the surgeon and his assistant. This visit was strictly a consultation, not the procedure itself, as I originally expected it to be. The visit also included a disappointment. According to the surgeon, the laparoscopic approach may not be able to do the job, that is, it may not be able to find the very small object it is supposed to remove—an object measuring 2.4 cm by 1.4 cm.

Searching Less Familiar Territory

Performing such a task is a challenge just a little less daunting than finding a needle in a haystack—for several reasons. First, the surgeon and his team are looking for an object that is very small. In our meeting, the surgeon described it as “the size of an olive.” Second, the surgeon and his team are dealing with less familiar territory than what they are normally used to as a laparoscopic team where known parts of the anatomy such as the gall bladder or appendix or spleen are the usual targets of a laparoscopic search. What they have to go on are the images from the CAT and PET scans. And that’s all!

Finally, even if found relatively easily, this “olive,” which is an enlarged lymph node, may turn out to be behind something important like a blood vessel that can’t be moved aside too easily, anyway not by something as small as a laparoscope.

Conventional Surgery An Option

If the surgical team cannot find or reach the object, then right on the spot they will enlarge the initial incision and perform a conventional surgical procedure. First, however, they will be using the laparoscope.

Laparoscopic surgery, what is it? Laparoscopic surgery is usually what people in medicine mean when they talk about “minimally invasive surgery.” Because it is minimally invasive, recovery time is normally much quicker than with conventional surgery. Hence my disappointment when the surgeon told me that he might not be able to complete my procedure laparoscopically.

Cavity Inflated

Here is how the online encyclopedia Wikipedia defines laparoscopic surgery (www.wikipedia.org/wiki/laparoscopic_surgery): “The key element in laparoscopic surgery is the use of a laparoscope: telescopic rod lens system that is usually connected to a video camera… Also attached is a fiber optic cable system connected to a cold light source …to illuminate the operative field, inserted through a 5mm or 10mm cannula [hollow tube] to view the operative field. The abdomen is usually insufflated with carbon dioxide gas to create a working and viewing space.”

The target of this tiny gizmo is, as the surgeon described it to me, “a thing the size of an olive.” Not only must this olive be found, but it must be cut away from the surrounding mass and then extracted. Once out of me, it will then be sliced and put under a microscope by a pathologist (an expert in the causes of disease) and a report prepared.

Lymphatic System Defined

The olive is an enlarged lymph node, a part of the body’s lymphatic system. What is the lymphatic system? Every cell in the body needs to be fed to stay alive. Every cell in the body also needs to be cleaned to remove the byproducts of metabolism or feeding. The feeding is accomplished by the body’s tissue fluid, which is part of the body’s blood system. The cleaning is the role of the lymphatic system, which is also responsible for defending the body against disease. Tissue fluid and lymphatic systems are linked.

On the web site http://www.lymphnotes.com, one of many that deals with lymphatic issues, tissue fluid and lymph are compared and contrasted. “The role of tissue fluid is to deliver the groceries to the cell. The role of lymph is to take out the trash [the byproducts of metabolism] that is left behind and to dispose of it.”

Known As Lymphoma

Lymph nodes play a central role in the production of antibodies, which the body produces to fight disease including cancer. Sometimes the nodes are cancerous themselves. That may be the case with “the olive” inside of me, found by both CAT and PET scans and shown to exhibit higher than normal metabolic activity by the PET scan. Cancer originating in the lymph nodes is known as lymphoma.

If the “olive” is found to be evidence of lymphoma, then my oncologist (cancer specialist) is likely to recommend chemotherapy as the treatment. Chemotherapy primarily involves the transfusion of chemicals into the blood stream. Sometimes chemicals are also taken by mouth.

Chemicals Are Killers

Most of these chemicals are killers. That in fact is why they are taken. Their job is to attack and kill fast growing parts of the body such as cancer cells. Unfortunately, there is no way to stop them from also killing other fast growing cells in the body such as hair follicles and parts of the stomach lining. Hence the sudden baldness we see in cancer patients. Hence the bouts of nausea they frequently experience.

By talking about chemotherapy at this stage, I am getting ahead of myself, and that is not a very good idea when dealing with anything as momentous as the possibility of a cancer reoccurrence. In fact, it is not a very good idea in any case. I am learning from my meditation practice to live in the present, and never has such a skill been more important.

It is the now that is important. It is learning to make the most of the present that is essential. That is the best path to getting the most out of every moment of life.

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To communicate with the author of Mind Check, please write to stephen.saft@gmail.com. For examples of the writer’s other writings, see the website http://www.iwillmeanpoetry.com. The author is also preparing to launch a site of podcasts consisting of spoken poetry, essays and short stories. Be on the look out for it.

Copyright © 2007 by Stephen Alan Saft

BRAVERY NEEDED WHEN FACED WITH MEDICAL TEST FINDINGS

One of the characteristics of modern life is the enormous amount of information we all have access to and specifically the great volume of information we have access to about ourselves and our health. In medicine, for example, sophisticated scanning devices exist that look inside the body and provide complex information on how our insides look and how all our many parts and regions are functioning.

I am referring specifically to medical scanning technology, the offspring of the original non-invasive method to look inside the body, which is still with us today, known as the X-Ray. These offspring techniques have names like MRI for magnetic resonance imaging, CAT or CAT scan for computer-aided tomography, and PET or PET scan for positron emission tomography.

Scans May Scare Us

Miracle techniques, right? Without them the early detection of most forms of cancer would be almost impossible, as would an effective method of tracking the patient after treatments like surgery or chemotherapy. Yes, great techniques, but they are also great sources of worry. The information from medical scanning technology gives us a great deal more to think about in this information-loaded anxiety-ridden world.

Why? First because scanning technology provides data including images that must be interpreted by human beings with titles like radiologist or oncologist. These specialists may not interpret the data correctly. Even when the interpretation is dead on perfect, it is almost always more about suspicions rather than certainties. Scans are rarely ends in themselves. A slew of follow-up procedures are required.

CAT and PET Findings

An example, please! In an earlier posting to Mind Check, I revealed my personal history with cancer and specifically with mantel cell B lymphoma and with thyroid cancer. As I noted then, a diagnosis of mantel cell B lymphoma is not a particularly good one, but the fact that I have gone well over six years since my initial detection and over five years since my bone marrow transplant at Johns Hopkins Hospital is grounds for considerable celebration and grounds for encouragement.

Because of my medical history, I now submit to twice yearly CAT scans. Unfortunately, my last scan revealed something suspicious, specifically a lymph node measuring a little more than 2 centimeters by a little more than 1 centimeter, and I am now in the midst of trying to find out what this little thing is. In fact, as of this writing, I have not just had a CAT scan but also a PET scan, the latter a technique relying on nuclear technology, specifically an infusion of radioactive sugar, to measure metabolism or glucose intake in specific regions of the body.

Good News and Not So Good

The second scan led to the news that no other area in my body showed anything suspicious including no vital organs. Good news, yes? Nonetheless what is to be done about the suspicious lymph node, albeit quite a small one? It should be noted that between the initial CAT scan and the PET scan, a small increase in the size of the node was detected, and the PET scan revealed higher than normal activity in the node, a possible indication of cancer.

Now what do I do? Should I ignore the little thing until it gets a lot bigger? The oncologist I’m seeing wants me to consult with a surgeon about having the lymph node removed using a laparoscope and to do it now. Laparoscopic surgery is minimally invasive and entails the shortest possible recovery time. The removed node would then be put under the microscope for positive identification. Should it prove lymphomic, I’ll confront a new set of options.

Realism and Bravery Needed

A lot to think about and a lot of potential for worry. The thought that I have been down this road before and survived is helpful, but I also know that I must be realistic and I must be brave. We do not live forever. That is a given for all of us. Something has got to kill each one of us.

The fact is that I love life, and that encourages me to keep on fighting. At the same time, as I wrote in a previous posting, I see no benefit in dwelling on my mortality. I see no benefit in allowing worry to take over my life. The meditation practice I am engaged in and which I discussed in still another posting is very helpful at times like these, for it helps me to attain mind control and to experience some peace of mind. Specifically I have been a practitioner for several months of the methods taught by Eknath Easwaran and his Blue Mountain School of Meditation.

One of my blessings as a human being is that I have a lot of interests and a fundamental interest in what is going on inside my head at any given moment. These interests help to sustain me during difficult times. The concern of my wife and family and friends also sustain me, and I am also very grateful for that.

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To communicate with the author of Mind Check, please write to stephen.saft@gmail.com. For examples of the writer’s other writings, see the website http://www.iwillmeanpoetry.com. The author is also preparing to launch a site of podcasts consisting of spoken poetry, essays and short stories. Be on the look out for it.

Copyright © 2007 by Stephen Alan Saft

UNUSUAL ACTION IS THE ATTRACTION

It is human nature to be fascinated with action especially when that action is not ordinary or commonplace. Unusual action attracts us. Passivity or inaction does not. When, for example, someone takes extreme action and kills 32 people with an automatic pistol and then kills himself we want to know everything we can about him. Why did he do it? How was he brought up? What was he going through that led him to commit such a horrific act? Where did all this intense hatred of others come from?

We may even say that we feel sorry for him that he could contain so much hatred within himself. We may go even further and try to find in this perpetrator of so much mayhem, pain and misery an excuse to see him as some kind of victim himself—a victim of supposed persecution of the mental or physical kind. Meanwhile we may find it harder to think about the victims, all these innocent people whose lives were taken from them and all the grieving families and friends.

The Supreme Narcissist

The perpetrator acted out in such an extreme attention-getting manner because he felt he deserved such attention. He saw himself as more valuable and more important than all his would-be victims. He was in this respect the supreme narcissist, a personality that we described in previous installments of Mind Check and classified as evil.

The painful reality is that this evil young man was right. He used extreme action to gain attention for himself, and he got it.

Challenge for the Moralist

The attraction of extreme action is part of the challenge for the moralist. The moralist is forced to classify actions into three large categories, those that are good, those for which moral judgment is not relevant, and those that are bad. Justice through a nation’s legal system is not possible when the doer of such evil as happened at Virginia Tech also kills himself.

Our only recourse as responsible citizens of the world is our relentless condemnation of such acts because they are evil, but also in the hope that through such condemnation we may prevent another act of this type from happening ever again.

Remembering the Victims

Yes, as humans, we may be fascinated by and curious about an evil doer in our midst, but we must not fail to speak out about what he has done. And we must never fail to remember the victims. One of the messages in all of this is that there is much in human nature that may be understandable—“natural,” so to speak—but just because certain acts are part of the natural condition and as students of life—scientists, for example—we can study them, they are never acceptable or pardonable. And we must condemn them.

For example, at this time of grief for the innocent victims of the Virginia Tech massacre, it is not enough to remind ourselves of the Columbine tragedy in Colorado with weak words betraying a flabby mind set. It is not enough to remember all the other examples of gun violence in this country instigated by people judged to be insane. The recent murder of school girls in Amish country in Pennsylvania also comes to mind. We must speak out.

Mental Energy and Charisma

The topic of mental energy has been on the Mind Check agenda as something to write about for some time. The attraction of mental energy and the attraction of people of action are similar phenomena. Mental energy is what we mean when we use the word charisma. As we know from recent history, the charismatic leader may also be a force for unmitigated evil.

Saying that someone is too judgmental is often used as a pejorative in human affairs. Yes, people can be judgmental to a fault, but the fact is that the ability to make judgments is an inherent capability of mind. When this capability is not exercised, we lose our ability to lead independent responsible lives.

Morality, which is the application of judgment based on a reasonable, compassionate code of conduct, needs always to be acknowledged as the mind functioning at its highest level.

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To communicate with the author of Mind Check, please write to stephen.saft@gmail.com. For examples of the writer’s other writings, see the website http://www.iwillmeanpoetry.com. The author is also preparing to launch a site of podcasts consisting of spoken poetry, essays and short stories. Be on the look out for it.

Copyright © 2007 by Stephen Alan Saft

LESSONS FROM VIRGINIA TECH: PAY CLOSER ATTENTION TO OUR POETS

As we begin our recovery from the horror of what occurred at Virginia Tech just a week ago, we look at the lessons learned from this tragedy for all humanity. Mental health professions both at the university and at a major hospital near by judged this future killer of 32 people to be merely depressed and no threat to others, but one person thought otherwise and that was poet and university professor Yolanda Cornelia “Nikki” Giovanni.

Not only did Nikki Giovanni ask that the future mass murder be removed from her class, but she sought protection from the police to ensure her personal safety. Giovanni saw in this severely disturbed person who happened to be her student far more than the depression and suicidal tendencies that was all the so-called professionals saw. She saw the would-be mass murderer. She saw the evil.

Professionals Need Retraining

Lesson one from this tragedy then is that our mental health professionals need to be more alert to psychopathology. Lesson one is that most of our mental health professionals need retraining. Only a small number of people who exhibit mental disorders are any more than threats to themselves, but the fact is that that one exception can do an enormous amount of harm in a society in which weapons, including automatic weapons, are so freely available.

For one thing, mental health professionals need to learn that one of their major jobs is the protection of the public, and they need better diagnostic tools to ferret out the psychopath from those who are just depressed and suicidal. The fact is that one highly intelligent and sensitive person, namely the poet Nikki Giovanni, saw far worse than simply depression and suicidal tendencies in this student who sat before her and shared some of his inmost thoughts with her through his writing.

Did They Talk to Nikki Giovanni?

Did any of the mental health professionals who were charged with evaluating this student ever talk to Nikki Giovanni, and if they did why didn’t they take her concerns and her fears more seriously? Let us remember that this future mass murderer was also accused of stalking two female students. Stalking is an act perpetrated against another. It is an insight into psychopathology whether the two female students pressed charges or not.

As regular readers of Mind Check know, I have spent considerable effort in this blog on the subject of evil. In this respect, I have been aided by my readings of the writings of the great psychiatrist M. Scott Peck, who we lost in 2005. Our contemporary psychiatrists and other mental health workers need to start by reading or perhaps rereading M. Scott Peck, and they need to take his work very seriously. Yes, the evil do walk among us, and they are capable of immense destruction.

Liviu Librescue Remembered

Before closing this installment of Mind Check, I want to call attention to the loss of Liviu Librescue, age 76, as part of this tragedy and thus pay my respects to this survivor of the holocaust and engineering and mathematics lecturer at Virginia Tech. Among the 32 innocent victims of this horrific act of evil, Librescue died blocking the door to his classroom and thus protecting his students from the madman outside. Monday, April 16, the day of the massacre at Virginia Tech, was Holocaust Remembrance, and it was on such a day as that that Liviu Librescue gave his life so that others might live. I stand in awe before such an act of self sacrifice and heroism.

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To communicate with the author of Mind Check, please write to stephen.saft@gmail.com. For examples of the writer’s other writings, see the website http://www.iwillmeanpoetry.com. The author is also preparing to launch a site of podcasts consisting of spoken poetry, essays and short stories. Be on the look out for it.

Copyright © 2007 by Stephen Alan Saft

TO SURVIVE CANCER, FIGHT THE DEATH OBSESSION

The revelations about the reoccurrence of cancer in Elizabeth Edwards, wife of John Edwards, candidate for president, and the spread of the disease in Tony Snow, George Bush’s press secretary, has brought the disease front and center to public attention once again. This attention has forced me to think once again about my own battles with the disease.

One of the many excellent articles on the subject appears in the latest issue of Newsweek Magazine (April 9, 2007, page 30ff). This first person account by Newsweek writer Jonathan Alter contains many echoes from my own life. Like Jonathan Alter I was diagnosed with lymphoma, a cancer of the blood system, in fact with the same variety of the disease, called mantel cell B. In my case, the diagnosis came at the very beginning of 2002, and by the end of that year I had undergone a bone marrow transplant at Johns Hopkins Hospital, Baltimore, Maryland.

Initial Chemotherapy, Then Transplant

Like Alter, whose diagnosis came over two years after mine, I was found to have a tumor growing in my stomach region. Like Alter, my course of treatment consisted of an initial assault with a transfused chemotherapy called CHOP, an acronym for a witch’s brew of chemicals used to treat a number of cancers. And like Alter, I was then transfused with Rituxan, considered a pharmaceutical wonder at the time.

Unlike Alter, however, I did not need surgery to remove the tumor; chemo did the whole job for me, but while I did not have to put up with surgery, anyway for tumor removal, I did have to put up with pneumonia and a prolonged recovery from it, a byproduct of the CHOP. My bone marrow transplant, designated as autologous, the same procedure that Alter went through, was followed by transfusions of a whole lot more Rituxan in hopes of knocking out the agent or agents that caused my illness in the first place. (In an autologous transplant, the patient is his own donor. The alternative, an allogenic transplant, requires a separate donor.)

No Evidence of Reoccurrence

Now five years and several checkups later, the medical community is still not able to find evidence of the disease in my system, but like Alter I will not use the term “cure” and not even the term “remission” in describing my situation. I am cancer free at the moment, and that is all I will say on that subject.

One reason that I feel I need to temper my optimism is because mantel cell B lymphoma is not the only major cancer I have suffered in my life. And when I say that, I am not counting skin cancer, specifically basal cell carcinoma, for which I have also been treated. Basal cell carcinoma is usually classified as “minor.” No, I’m talking about thyroid cancer.

Lumps Seen in a Mirror

About 40 years ago, I was shaving at the bathroom mirror of my fourth-floor Brooklyn walkup, when I noticed two golf ball size lumps projecting from either side of my neck. The cause of these strange lumps was determined only after one of them was surgically removed and a section of it put under the microscope. The lumps were evidence of thyroid cancer. In subsequent surgery, my thyroid gland, which sits in front of the throat, was removed along with the second lump and all the lymph nodes the surgeon could find in my neck.

Being diagnosed with thyroid cancer at the age of 26 was a total shock, in fact even more of a shock than being diagnosed with mantel cell B lymphoma at the age of 62. The first shock was a total coming to terms experience, that is, a total coming to terms with the denial most of us feel about death, especially when we’re young. I was 26 years old. I was newly married, my wife was expecting our child, and I was going to live forever, right? Wrong!

Facing Cancer as Young Person

I was mortal, and I was capable of coming down with cancer. That I could suffer such a gross disease meant that I was going to die. Maybe not from the thyroid cancer. Maybe not right away, but someday, and that was that. Hence when I heard the diagnosis of mantel cell B lymphoma for the latest health crisis, my dominant initial emotion was “not again.” But that thought was followed by a surge of strength. “You beat thyroid cancer, and you will beat mantel cell B lymphoma,” I told myself.

Yes, I read all I could find about this variant of the disease on the Internet, and, just as Alter found in his own research, what I read did not sound good, but I refused to take the bleak accounts as an automatic and immediate death sentence. I would fight this thing. I would do what the doctors told me to do, and I would see what happened.

I had gotten through the thyroid cancer, I told myself, and I knew that it would be better for me if I took the attitude that somehow I would get through this latest crisis as well. That I was going to die someday was already accepted. I had dealt with that reality 40 years before at an age when it was much less customary to think about life and death issues. And now faced with the new diagnosis I knew I had to work against allowing myself to feel that my death was imminent.

Five Years Out

So now I am five years out from my bone marrow transplant, and I am still here.

Because I was trying to keep my mind focused away from the notion that my death was just around the corner, I kept reminding myself to make sure that I was living my life not as a dying man, but like someone with many more years of active life ahead of him. First I began planning with my wife a move coincident with our retirements from jobs in the ever more congested Washington area and to the mountains of southwestern Virginia. The idea that I would be moving to a more healthy environment had a lot to do with our decision.

Moving to the Mountains

As residents of the mountain, we decided to lead as healthy a life style as possible including a regular program of exercise and being more mindful of what we were eating. We decided that we needed to be more aware of what was going on inside our heads as well. That, for example, is why I joined a meditation program, and it had a lot to do with why I started this blog. Then some months later, we decided to make room in our lives for a puppy.

Yes, the thought would dawn on me occasionally that this very intelligent, energetic and mischievous little dog might outlive me and my wife, but I made myself put that thought aside. No, I had to restrict the amount of time I spent thinking about my death and allowing thoughts of death to influence any of my decisions. Death is a given, as it is a given for all living things, but I was going to live my life as fully as possible. Meanwhile, care of a young dog has forced me to be even less focused on myself, and that is a good thing.

My efforts at putting thoughts of death aside is not perfect, of course. Like Alter I still go through a lot of anxiety whenever a periodic medical check up is in the offing, but most of the time I am happy and optimistic and excited about the work I want to accomplish in my life.

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Thank you for tuning into Mind Check, a biweekly effort to prove that we are what we think and that clear thinking leads to effective action and to a better world. Mind Check is intended to serve as a bridge between the realm of the human spirit, that center of our energy, mental and physical, and our rationality or reason, of which the scientific method is an excellent example. Mind Check is also intended to prove that the ideas of right and wrong are innate, not exclusively inherent in the situation or the whim of the moment.

To communicate with the author of Mind Check, please write to stephen.saft@gmail.com. For examples of the writer’s other writings, see the website http://www.iwillmeanpoetry.com. The author is also preparing to launch a site of podcasts consisting of spoken poetry, essays and short stories. Be on the look out for it.

Copyright (c) 2007 by Stephen Alan Saft

CRUELTY WITHIN FAMILIES IS NOT BEAUTIFUL

When I spoke of evil earlier in Mind Check, the examples I used tended to be drawn from recent history or the sensational brought to us via the media. The fact is that for every dictator with human blood on his hands or every serial killer, there are millions who have committed acts of cruelty on a smaller scale. Because these acts are intended to bring harm to others, at least emotionally, and because this harm is perpetrated as a calculated act of self benefit, they fit the definition of evil.

In many cases, these acts of cruelty are committed within families. Family members hurt other family members because they can. Dependency relationships are common within families. One family member depends on another family member financially or for help during illness or debilitation or for love. The family member who is depended upon can exact revenge upon the dependent party by refusing any or all of these expected forms of assistance or by making the other grovel in some way before extending himself.

Wedding, Humiliation Opportunity

Here is an example. The oldest of three children, a daughter, was getting married, and the parents sent out wedding invitations. When the 85-year-old grandmother, that is, the mother of the bride-to-be’s son, received her invitation, she called the mother of the bride-to-be, that is, her daughter-in-law.

What her motive was in making the call is the subject of speculation. My guess is that the grandmother suspected that the treatment that was to be accorded her at the wedding was not going to be to her liking, based on her past relations with this family, which had not been good for some time. Specifically, the grandmother feared this family might do what they had done in the past, which was to use family celebrations over which they had control as opportunities to humiliate her and other family members.

Unreturned RSVP

In the course of the telephone conversation, the daughter-in-law stated that the grandmother of the groom was to be escorted down the aisle at the start of the ceremony, but that she, the maternal grandmother of the bride, would not be accorded such an honor. This revelation had its intended effect. The grandmother was most upset. In fact, she was so upset that she never did return the RSVP to give notice that she would be attending the affair.

She did not return the RSVP and thus was not expected, but she did attend the wedding anyway. She was not present for the banquet and dance, but she did appear at the ceremony at the start of the night’s festivities. Wearing a checkered outfit more in keeping with a women’s club luncheon than an evening wedding at a downtown Philadelphia hotel, the grandmother took a seat close to the bride and bridegroom and the rabbi who was officiating and thus in plain view of almost everyone in attendance.

Rabbi’s Homily

It is interesting to note that in his homily the rabbi addressed the danger of not resolving ill will in a family at the start of a marriage, thus allowing the possibility of its infiltrating the relationship of the newlyweds itself. How had the rabbi learned about the ill will in this family? It is customary for the bride and groom to meet before the ceremony with the person who will officiate. It is probable that the bride-to-be discussed the angry telephone conversation between grandmother and mother of the bride and other unfortunate events in the history of this relationship at one of these pre-nuptial conferences.

How good it would have been if at the end of the ceremony the mother or father of the bride and thus the hosts for the evening affair had approached the grandmother and made room for her at the banquet that was to follow. That would have been the magnanimous thing to do. One of them should have taken a cue from the rabbi and said to the older woman, “What has happened between us is water under the bridge. For the sake of this young couple who are just starting out life together, let us have peace in this family.”

Told to Leave

This did not happen, and instead the grandmother was told she could not stay and was escorted out of the hall.

What were the supposed crimes of the grandmother that merited her such shabby treatment at the wedding and in the years leading up to it? The grandmother was no saint. For one thing she was no diplomat and had a supercilious side to her personality that had a tendency to show itself in her relations with close family members. This unloving side to her nature diminished as she became older, but any close family member who had known her earlier and had a tendency to hold a grudge might never forgive her, no matter how she reformed herself later.

Imagining the Satisfaction

It is clear that the host and hostess intended to use the wedding of their oldest daughter as another vehicle for exacting revenge on the grandmother. Had unquenchable anger been their dominant feeling towards her, then they should not have invited her in the first place. No, it was important for them to mete out punishment once again. One cringes at the thought of the host and hostess taking pleasure at the grandmother’s discomfort as she sat in her seat along with everyone else attending and bore witness to the honor accorded to her counterpart, but not to her.

People who use family celebrations as a means to exact punishment on other members of their family bring infamy upon themselves.

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Thank you for tuning into Mind Check, a biweekly effort to prove that we are what we think and that clear thinking leads to effective action and to a better world. Mind Check is intended to serve as a bridge between the realm of the human spirit, that center of our energy, mental and physical, and our rationality or reason, of which the scientific method is an excellent example. Mind Check is also intended to prove that the ideas of right and wrong are innate, not exclusively inherent in the situation or the whim of the moment.

To communicate with the author of Mind Check, please write to stephen.saft@gmail.com. For examples of the writer’s other writings, see the website http://www.iwillmeanpoetry.com. The author is also preparing to launch a site of podcasts consisting of spoken poetry, essays and short stories. Be on the look out for it.

Copyright © 2007 by Stephen Alan Saft

POSITIVE THINKING, THE SIMPLE MINDED ANSWER

This posting was supposed to be about mental energy, but I have become distracted by another subject and need to address it first. I’ll have a few things to say about mental energy in this posting and then return to it at a later time.

The main topic for today is positive thinking, specifically making supposed good things happen in our lives simply by thinking them into reality. The fact is that a strong connection exists between positive thinking and mental energy. In any case, the advocates make such a claim. Making our positive thoughts come true, they say, is dependent on how hard the positive thinker thinks, that is, on how much mental energy he applies to the positive thinking act.

Making Millions Through Positive Thinking

The fact is that positive thinking is a lucrative cottage industry in this country, and it’s keeping many a publisher and many a writer alive. Millions of dollars have been made through books, articles, audio CDs, DVDs, TV guest appearances and lectures. Watch the Oprah or Ellen or a score of other talk shows on television for any length of time, and you are guaranteed to hear from a number of these people.

Norman Vincent Peale whose The Power of Positive Thinking came out in 1952 is the best known of the positive thinking gurus, and Wayne Dyer, a star of the lecture circuit and author of Your Erroneous Zones, among many works, is a contemporary advocate with a wide following. (Internet references: http://normanvincentpeale.wwwhubs.com. http://www.drwaynedyer.com.)

The latest of the positive thinking gurus is an Australian television producer by the name of Rhonda Byrne whose best selling book, audio CD and DVD are called The Secret, The Law of Attraction. See the website http://www.the-secret-book.com for information on the book and links to the audio CD and DVD and note that the works include contributions by several people, not just Byrne.

Manipulating Objective Physical Reality

I am indebted to the weekly news magazine Newsweek for bringing Rhonda Byrne and The Secret to my attention (March 5, 2007 edition, page 52ff). In the article, written by Jerry Adler, we find out that “ ‘the secret’ is the law of attraction, which holds that you create your own reality through your thoughts…Its explicit claim is that you can manipulate objective physical reality—the numbers in a lottery drawing, the actions of other people who may not even know you exist—through your thoughts and feelings.

“In the words of ‘author and personal empowerment advocate’ Lisa Nichols [and a contributor to The Secret] : ‘When you think of the things you want, and you focus on them with all of your attention, then the law of attraction will give you exactly what you want, every time.’

“Every time!,” Adler continues in the Newsweek article. “Byrne emphasizes that this is a law inherent in ‘the universe,’ an inexhaustible storehouse of goodies from which you can command whatever you desire from the comfort of your own living room by following three simple steps: Ask, Believe, Receive.”

Closer Look at Newsweek

So let’s take a closer look at Newsweek, in fact at the same issue that contains the article on The Secret, to see if there is anything redeeming at all in this bizarre philosophy. Let’s start with the cover of the magazine, a cover which shows a wounded veteran of the War in Iraq, double-amputee Specialist Marissa Strock. Strock, pictured with her protheses detached and propped up by the chair on which she sits, was the gunner on a Humvee that on Thanksgiving Day 2005 was hit by the explosion from an IED (improvised explosive device). The explosion killed two of her fellow soldiers in the Humvee.

Is there anyone in his right mind who would argue that if Specialist Marissa Strock were to “ask” to have her real legs back, no matter how passionately and how much mental energy she exerted in asking for it, and how much she might “believe” that it might happen, that in fact she would “receive” her legs back? The question does not require an answer.

In Furtherance of Greed

To set the record straight, The Secret is not marketed as the secret for using the mind to have lost limbs suddenly reappear or to bring about any number of other comparable medical impossibilities. When I am postulating that an amputee might get real limbs back, I am projecting Byrne’s central thesis out to its most ridiculous extreme. Rather it is a guide for material acquisitiveness and other forms of self aggrandizement, in other words using the mind in furtherance of greed and personal advantage at the expense of others.

Imagine yourself with an expensive necklace around your neck, and viola the expensive necklace suddenly appears around your neck. Imagine yourself driving a Mercedes Benz and viola, etcetera, etcetera, etcetera.

Self-centered Nonsense

A universe in which such self-centered nonsense were possible is not a universe in which I would care to live. But as bad as the Byrne philosophy is in its own right, it also shares some of its negative features with many of the other positive thinking philosophies. The trouble with so many of the positive thinking philosophies is that they reduce the experiences and processes of living into just plain simple mindedness.

The Pleasures of Complication

Norman Vincent Peale when he was alive would frequently tell us how “simple” the solutions to life’s problems were, first and foremost our worries. The solution to our worries for Norman Vincent Peale? Trust in God, of course. I am not arguing against a belief in God, but I am arguing for an acceptance and a respect for the complexity of life. Life is complicated, and in its complexity lies one of its great pleasures, but also many of its difficulties. Read literature, study art and music, read history, read philosophy, read psychology and the social sciences. In fact, read the bible. These contain the records of the immense range of possibilities and complexities that is the richness of life.

The utter unpredictability of some of the situations in which we find ourselves—who our parents are, wars and death, to cite some extremes—the fact that we are social beings and never operate entirely alone and are often subject to the decisions of others, the reality and complexities of addictive behavior, the vicissitudes of other forms of mental and physical health. Yes, we are often presented with opportunities to take charge and direct our lives—and we must be prepared to take advantage of those opportunities—but we also often have to play the role of reactor. We also have to play catch up.

As we learned from Scott Peck, to deal with the complexities of life takes work and discipline. Easy answers are no answers. Are you ready?

ABOUT MIND CHECK

Thank you for tuning into Mind Check, a biweekly effort to prove that we are what we think and that clear thinking leads to effective action and to a better world. Mind Check is intended to serve as a bridge between the realm of the human spirit, that center of our energy, mental and physical, and our rationality, of which the scientific method is an excellent example. Mind Check is also intended to prove that the ideas of right and wrong are innate, not exclusively inherent in the situation or the whim of the moment.

To communicate with the author of Mind Check, please write to stephen.saft@gmail.com. For examples of the writer’s other writings, see the website http://www.iwillmeanpoetry.com.

Copyright © 2007 by Stephen Alan Saft